As an Online Lady, looing ask me a lot of odd questions. When someone is sending you mixed signals, under what circumstances should you keep trying, and when should you walk away?
As a rule, mixed signals are usually just soft nos. Some women, especially, might try to let yo down easy for fear that you guys might go apeshit on us for not wanting to date you—which happens enough to feel like a justified fear.
Everyone bemoans this dynamic.
The point is—and this holds true for everything dating-related—a maybe is a no. And sometimes, someone really was in Philly for a work event. And occasionally, sure, someone might not be into the idea of kissing on Online Adult Dating looking to suck around 2 first date as a personal ruleand not because they think you suck and would rather be stuck in a room with 23 clones of Gary Busey than eat tapas with you again.
Each of those things, by itself, is not worth putting the brakes on a budding fuck situation, but Oline you have all of those together, you should probably stop putting in effort for a while.
See if the other person picks up the slack. That said, when it comes to deciphering any level of mixed signals, the golden rule is: Pay as much attention to loojing actions as you do to their words.
If someone says they had a really nice time, but they seemed to get bored about halfway through and kept checking their phone, they were probably bored.
When you like someone, time magically frees up. If they like you, they make time for you.
So watch their actions. It means they want to put in effort. It takes more time to take a shit. But if just one thing feels off, put in effort one last time—and I do mean ONE last time —and see how she responds.
No matter what, do not seek closure. Maybe one time out of ten someone is going to give you a concrete, genuine answer that you could work on: Just drop it and move on.