I recently read your column about a woman in a good marriage who had fallen in love with someone else, and it resonated with me.
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I am male, plus, and have been married for 25 years with grown children. My wife is a lovely woman, a great mother and is dedicated to me and to our family. Twelve years ago, a female colleague and I formed a strong friendship, which has dominated my life ever since.
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I don't think this would work because the real human connection and warmth I get from having an intimate friend is one of lookinh highlights of my life. I know agony aunts have a reputation for telling everyone to go off and take up a nice hobby as a Married man just looking for freind for life's difficulties but your situation is not the same as Louise's, the reader you mean.
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Her infatuation was sudden and highly infectious. Your love is deep-rooted. She was looking for relief from her anguish.
You, it seems to me, are looking for understanding and, maybe, a long-distance blessing from a stranger of something that is precious to you. I can give you understanding but, from my distant Married man just looking for freind, I cannot give you a blessing. You asked a question that must trouble many people. I think the answer to that ought to be, "no". In an ideal world, should we be so lucky, any human life would encompass many forms of love and friendship.
Marriage can be the greatest friendship of all. A good marriage can be accepting and tolerant Married man just looking for freind the other ties and affections that we all form, Margied work, from childhood and our single days, and through shared interests that might not be reflected in the marriage. Some will survive the competition of marriage; others will fade and die. I am talking about Married man just looking for freind friendships here, not about sexual and romantic liaisons.
What is interesting about your problem is exactly where, on this continuum of friendship, affection, love and sexual fulfilment, your friendship with your former colleague falls. The reason I can't give my blessing to the friendship is that, even though you have abstained from sex, there is Marrifd an intensity of feeling here, an obsessive quality, a magnetic pull, that makes it dangerous to your long and happy marriage.
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I love those words, "quietly and unostentatiously". There is so little in our common culture that is quiet and unostentatious. How many of us, let down by the ephemerality of the dramas, get to know what my widowed reader knows, that the blessings of a long and faithful marriage Looking for workout horny women chat even after death?
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You are not being sexually unfaithful to your wife but this is not an Married man just looking for freind or harmless relationship that you have with your ex-colleague. You may not be sleeping with this woman but you are diverting emotional attention and energy to her that could be Fuck Beaufort North Carolina girls in your wife.
Marrier is beyond a normal friendship. Friendships with colleagues can be intense but most of them lose their intensity once the working relationship is over.
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You meet alone. You are invested in the ups and downs and dramas of her life.
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You support her, hold her, kiss her, think about her. How do you think your wife would feel if she knew of freinc hold this relationship has on you?
What I wish for you ferind a marriage as durable, as sustaining, as nourishing as my reader had with his wife. And they become particularly boring and undervalued when there is an intense pull from another direction.
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Tuesday 21 May Is Magried wrong to have a deep friendship Married man just looking for freind a woman who isn't my wife? In this week's Lifeclass, a married man asks if an intense friendship with another woman is a threat to his marriage. Derek Dear Derek, I know agony aunts have a reputation for telling everyone to go off and take up a nice hobby as a consolation for life's difficulties but your situation is not the same as Louise's, the reader you mean.
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